Dating sober person
This guideline is designed to protect the addict as well as the people they might date.
After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.
The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?The sort of person you will want to date will be interested in finding out more, and your sober-stint will be a conversation starter.In working with the spouses and significant others of addicts, I’ve often heard it said, “I’d rather be an addict than love one.” While few people would ever walk eyes-wide-open into a chronic disease like addiction, the statement speaks to the confusion, loneliness and despair common not only among addicts but also the men and women who love them. In fact, addicts who are solid in their recovery can make excellent partners.If you care about someone in active addiction, help them into treatment and hold off on turning a friendship into more until they’re grounded in their recovery.If they are in recovery, how long have they stayed sober?